Effective Communication

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Although we have been speaking all of our lives, mastering effective communication is an art that must be learned and practiced consistently. 

So often, when people speak, there is a breakdown in communication. What is spoken, may or may not be what the listener understands; or the intended message was not really what the speaker meant to say.

There are various reasons people from all walks of life have difficulty with communicating effectively.  A different message can be received based on the speaker's facial expression, body language, eye contact, volume, pauses, breathing and a variety of emotions. 

Any one of these aforementioned items could lead to what we commonly call an "intense fellowship". However, it is possible to successfully manage an honest mistake or conflict communication. 

Find a problem-solving process that works for you.  What I have learned is: 1. Identify what is the problem?  2. Determine how important is the problem? Should it be addressed immediately, or can it be taken care of later? 3. Brainstorm possible solutions. 4. Apply options from brainstorming towards achieving the best solution. 5. Make a decision to never go back that particular problem/situation.

Remember, the only process that is guaranteed not to work is the one you refuse to try. 

Here are 5 tips to achieve great communication:

1. Establish an environment of love, respect, gratitude, and appreciation. Be thoughtful, considerate, and give compliments often!
2. Practice active listening, instead of thinking about what you will say next. 
3. Restate the message received to check for understanding. Ask for clarification, if necessary.
4. If you make a mistake, apologize and take responsibility. Never criticize, ridicule, or use foul language.  Instead share how you feel and what you need.
5. When tensions arise, take a 30-minute break to breathe and calm down.  Agree to redirect your focus by taking a walk, getting a snack, taking a shower, or listening to soothing music.  Reconvene to try to work it out. Remember you are on the same team. Do what it takes to help each other win!